Tuesday, April 28, 2009
As I've mentioned before, My Guy's entire fam lives back east (like, cousins, aunts, uncles, parents, sibs, the whole 9 yards). While my parents and sisters live in Arizona, the rest of my family lives in various states in the mid and north west. When we originally started our "let's get married talks" I assumed Rhode Island would be the site where it would all happen. But then, everything started to fall into place for an Arizona mountain wedding (as in, WE could pay for the whole thing ourselves, it was close for us to plan and organize, and we desperatly love it up there and it feels like us).
Sounds ideal, right? Well. I'm starting to feel wicked selfish. I just feel like it's such a huge ordeal to ask family and friends (especially in this economy) to fly to Arizona, rent a car, drive two hours north, pay for a hotel for a night or two, and then go home. I do realize that people travel for weddings all of the time, and people are willing to do it...I just feel like perhaps we are making it too difficult, asking too much from these people we love. (Not to mention the friggen' huge environmental impact of all that travel!)
I reevaluated what was most important to me: to be married in a place that is beautiful, or to be married surrounded by those we love? That's a no brainer. I choose people. So, if this is true, and I choose people, where does that leave us? I asked My Guy this question this morning and he is convinced that the family members he is closest with will travel out here, so he doesn't see the problem. It's possible that I am making something out of nothing, but still. I can't shake that we could be doing this differently, to include more of our loved ones, to make the trip easier/cost efficient for them.
A couple hours after this convo with My Guy, I walked into the living room and saw him looking up wedding venues in Rhode Island (I thought this was cute). But Rhody is a wedding destination of the rich and famous New York/Boston crowd - sooooooooooooo out of our league. Sure we could get married in a banquet hall at a hotel - but really - we wouldn't.
Then we talked about having a teeny tiny wedding (hello elopment?) in the mountains of northern Arizona, and then have our reception in Rhode Island which actually seems feesible. The venue will be the hardest part to incorporate into our budget - but we don't have to party at The Breakers or anything.
I feel like pulling my hair out right now. Nothing is simple.